What do Simone Weil and Hans Vijlbrief have in common?
"Trust is the glue of society." This is how Wouter van Noort , NRC journalist, begins in one of his last columns: Future Affairs. Trust is the basis of relationships, of the social contract, of tackling the Great joint challenges for the future. The Pyramid of Lencioni (2002) teaches us that mutual trust is the basis for cooperation. When this foundation falls away, the organization, society, will disintegrate and polarization will prevail.
Trust is now a long way off. Of our society, only 25% still have confidence in politics. Not surprisingly, "The Hague" has made it with numerous errors and promises that have not been fulfilled (Groningen, allowances, youth care, etc.).
However, there are also exceptions. In Groningen, one politician from The Hague is trusted, and that is Hans Vijlbrief. Recently it said in Trouw:”State Secretary Hans Vrijbrief closed the gas tap, after he had learned to listen". And he says in that article: “because of what people tell me, I really need to recover after such an afternoon.”
In a nutshell, we see the building blocks of trust here. It starts with real attention and taking the other person seriously. And then move into the other person by listening deeply. Feel the pain yourself. Take your time, be quiet and wait for what is to come, without judgment.
Simone Weil already stated that the most beautiful gift you can give someone is real, full attention. The recipient feels known. Weil also points out that in French Attention, ‘attention’, is closely related to the word ‘attendre’, wait. Calmly wait for the answer and do not start filling out. This is how you build trust.
A good example is the foundation (equal)worthy recovery for victims of the surcharges affair. The goal is for people to feel heard and seen and to dare to look into the future as equivalent part of our society.
Attention and listening is the starting point.
Hans Vijlbrief really listens and it touches him deeply. He feels the pain. That inspires confidence to enter into cooperation. It motivates him to act, and to go to the limit that is within his capabilities.
Hopefully it penetrates “the Hague " that people like Filebrief are much needed to strengthen the glue of society – trust.
Immersion in nature does something to us. Your senses became sharper. You will listen and reflect more deeply. Every time, and you won't let go.
"The Hague" should be more in nature, instead of baking in rooms . Would a Nature Quest or Wilderness Trail be what?
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Boy Van Droffelaar, PhD
